NO MORE "I Want to be her"

I think almost every girl is guilty of using this phrase at least once in their life. As you are scrolling through your instagram feed and you come across Kendall Jenner's photo or one of the Victoria's Secret Angels's perfect bikini pics, sometimes it just slips out. I know that I have said this many times before.

But I say we need to get rid of this phrase, we need to remove this from our vocabulary!!! Saying things like this are dangerous to our confidence and self image. With social media these days, it is getting harder and harder for girls to ever feel happy with the people they are. We can be feeling beautiful one moment and then the next moment go on our phones and see a selfie and deem that person as more gorgeous than we will ever be. This constant comparison of ourselves to others is the root of insecurity, especially when we are day after day looking at photos of super models and famous people with unrealistic lives, bodies, and wardrobes. We need to stop idolizing these people, putting them on a pedestal. By doing this we are telling ourselves that these people are in some way above us.

Once we can remove this "I want to be her" mindset from our daily thought process, we can start to truly find ourselves and love what we find. By saying you want to be someone else, even if you aren't completely serious about it, you are in some way discrediting the amazing person you are. You aren't giving yourself the time of day that you truly deserve. You are only striving to be completely different from who you really are inside and out. The key is to not look at someone's strength as your weaknesses. Don't look at what someone has and see it as what you don't have. Every single person on this planet is different. These differences define us and make us unique beings. We should be celebrating our individuality!!!!

You are always going to be able to find someone skinnier, prettier, happier, smarter, (the list goes on and on) than you. And you might look at that person with jealousy or haste. You might see them as a figure that you strive to be but can never live up to. STOP THAT!! STOP IT RIGHT NOW!!!!! You are you. And no other person in this world has that. You have the power to be someone that no one else can and I think that's pretty cool. If we keep aspiring to be other people, we are only encouraging a culture of conformity. We are teaching future generations that if you aren't a certain way, well then you don't have any value. We need to start believing in the power of individuality and even more importantly in the power of CELEBRATING AND LOVING OURSELVES!!!

This doesn't mean we shouldn't admire other people's traits. Of course, if you see someone that looks beautiful you should compliment them. Of course, you should acknowledge anything in a person that you can appreciate. But make sure you save some celebration for yourself as well. Aspire to be YOU, the best possible version of YOU!!!! Who cares if there is a model on instagram with a better body than you, trust me there always will be. But what that model doesn't have is your smile, your laugh, your personality; they will never be YOU.

So today, I challenge you to remove the "I want to be her" phrase from your vocabulary and pick out three things you absolutely love about yourself. Trust me, I know that we can't just transform our way of thinking in one blog post and I know this constant comparison of ourselves to other people is never really going to stop, but once you can at least start to realize the beauty in yourself, you can start to transform into the confident, happy individual that is inside of all of you. You deserve to be celebrated!!!!!!!

xoxo SOCO <3